Author: Larry

ENTANGLED EMOTIONAL CORDS

Will drag you places you really don’t want to go
When to
Cut The Cords

Larry L French, MA

When you know, but you know it is truly over, begin to set clearly defined boundaries.
1) The first step in restoring your life is reordering your priorities by strengthening your relationship with God. By renewing your first love for the Lord, you will experience a restoration of your sense of worth and dignity. Focus on His love for you. Cultivate some close, Godly friends who will listen to and encourage you.
2) Recognize the emotional cords that entangle you to this unhealthy relationship before your feet hit the ground. Having been entangled for many years and having those familiar emotional cords a part of your daily life, it is nearly impossible to see them. Often, we have lost sight of the person God designed us to be and His plan for our lives. Find your security in God, and then face the challenge of setting boundaries.
3) As you grow and heal, you will discover even more of these invisible emotional cords that put restrictions and limits on you. Here are several areas where these cords overlap: legal agreements and conflicts, finances, social relations, family connections, health and car insurance, family plans for phones or other subscriptions, property division, parenting roles, interaction with extended family, old mutual friends, favorite restaurants, furnishings, gifts, possessions, favorite vacation places, church, employment, and other support networks. Dealing with a multitude of “cords” is complicated and exhausting.
4) Once the “cords” are identified, systematically cut each one. Some require more than one attempt to cut, and others are really tough and will require the help and support of friends and professional assistance.
If You Have Children
The care of your children will continue to be one of your highest priorities. Both parents need to compromise and make concessions to provide safety and security for their children. It helps to remember that these sacrifices are for a season and for the welfare of your children. To provide the most stable relationship with their children, parents often require a professional counselor to serve as a mediator while sorting out parenting and custody issues.

Copyright © 2019 by Larry L. French, MA